Booking a provider for the first time can feel exciting, nerve-wracking and a little overwhelming— and that’s completely okay. You obviously want to get it right, and not only that, but get a date with said provider, so you’re going to want to know a few things first. 

Whether you’re seeking connection, companionship, or a moment of indulgence, I’ll will walk you through what to expect, how to prepare and how to make the most of your time together.

BE COMMITTED BEFORE REACHING OUT

Nothing is worse than a timewaster, fantasy booker or carrot dangler. So, prior to reaching out, there are some things to think about.  

Decide upon a date, time and duration that you would like to see said provider for. Check your calendar, and ensure you are available at this time. Bonus points if you’re even prepared with a secondary date that works for you to propose in case they are not available on your originally planned date. 

THE BOOKING REQUEST

Most providers (myself included) manage our own calendars, websites and communication (although some have assistants and the like), and we deeply value discretion— yours and ours.

Figure out which method of correspondence the provider you are looking to contact prefers, and utilize it. Expect to send screening info, either in the form of ID, employment verification, or references (we all have our own verification process), and deposit (typically anywhere from 20-50%) promptly after sending screening. Be professional in your communication, concise, polite and ensure you provide ample time in advance for the process to proceed (i.e. do not send a booking request for 45 mins from the time of your request). 

ETIQUETTE 

We remember the thoughtful ones— the ones who are kind, clean, punctual and respectful.

Good etiquette looks like:

-Reading the website before reaching out

-Using polite, clear language in your initial inquiry

-Honouring agreed-upon boundaries (such as consent, obviously) and timeframes

-Offering the donation discreetly, in an envelope, book, gift bag, etc., at the very beginning of the date

-Arriving on time

-Not overstaying your welcome unless discussed how payment will be handled with the provider

-Tipping, bringing gifts, etc. 

Small things go a long way in setting the tone.

MORE THAN PHYSICAL CONNECTION

Companionship is about experience. For many, it’s a space to relax, be seen, laugh and connect— physically, emotionally, intellectually, even spiritually.

You don’t need to ‘perform’ or be anyone else. You just need to show up as you are, open to the moment.

Many, after their first time, leave feeling lighter, happier and more grounded than they expected.

NERVES ARE OKAY 

You’re not alone in feeling nervous. It’s a natural human emotion. 

Know that you’re entering a judgment-free zone. I hold space with care, warmth and professionalism— and I truly love what I do.

It’s okay to ask questions, take your time and let the experience unfold naturally.

FINAL THOUGHTS 

Plan ahead: Give yourself time to prepare. Choose a time you won’t be rushed.

Be generous: Kindness, attentiveness and gratitude are always sexy. Gifts are tips are not expected, but they do show me that you’ve been paying attention. See my wishlist here 🙂

Bring intention: Whether you want to unwind, connect, explore, or celebrate— let that guide the vibe.

This is your time to enjoy be cared for and feel desired.

Booking a provider isn’t about a service— it’s about connection. And when done thoughtfully, it can be a deeply meaningful experience.

If you’ve been curious, this is your sign to take the leap. I’d love to show you what’s possible.